However, modesty is something the Bible speaks about. As someone desiring to obey God’s Word, I’ve desired to know what that means.
we wear.
What does
modest clothing look like?
There are probably a thousand different opinions out there from people who share what modest clothing should look like.
For someone desiring to obey God in this area, hearing all those opinions could be overwhelming.
I have no desire to add another opinion about modest dress. But since I have gotten asked by many people why I wear some kind of a skirt or dress all the time, I thought I would share some thoughts as well as my own testimony in this area.
I grew up wearing whatever my parents gave me, and I never thought twice about it. I think that is true of all children. Children wear whatever their parents put on them or give them to wear.
I came from a Christian home, and I grew up wearing clothing like most American girls wore. I looked like everyone else in western culture. I honestly didn’t know anything else.
As I neared the age of 15, my mom mentioned to me and my sisters that God might have something to say in His Word about how we should dress. I had never been taught anything like that before. That was new to me.
Being in my mid-teens, I wasn’t exactly open to the idea of changing my clothing. I was happy and very content wearing jeans or shorts with a shirt. That was all I knew.
During that time, I had a personal walk with God. I loved Him, and I wanted to obey Him. Slowly, I became open to the idea that God’s Word did have something to say about how we should dress.
Over time, I began changing my clothing. Instead of jeans or shorts, I wore jumpers or skirts instead. Admittedly, I felt very odd and out of place. To me, skirts or dresses were something I only wore to church.
With time, skirts and dresses became my normal, every day clothing, and it became my own belief from God’s Word.
After 10 years of dressing this way, now around the age of 25, I stumbled across a letter that someone in my family wrote about the way I dressed. I won’t go into detail, but they made it clear that they thought I dressed in an extreme manner by wearing a skirt or a dress all the time.
Reading that left me with a knot in my stomach. Was I too extreme in my clothing? It was an honest question.
The sad thing about deception is: when you are deceived, you do not know it.
For 10 years of my life (age 15-25), had I been dressing in a manner that God did not intend? Did I go too far in wearing a skirt or dress all the time?
I never would have changed my clothing if that was the case. I felt so hurt and very confused.
All alone in the quietness of a room, I knelt down, cried, and prayed that night. I told the Lord that the only thing I wanted was to please Him and do what was right. I asked the Lord to please show me His heart. God used that to take me deeper into His Word.
If you stop to think about it, what really matters? God’s Word or man’s opinion?
Although I really respect Godly people I know, their opinions don’t matter.
The only thing that matters is what the Word of God says. God’s Word is what we will be held accountable for, not man’s opinions.
The beautiful thing about God’s Word is that it gives us basic things to follow, and in those things, we see the heart of God.
I heard someone say once that God is a perfect Gentleman. God never forces anything on anyone, and I love that. God honors our free will. God desires that what we do in obedience to Him comes from a heart of love for Him.
With that said, may I share some things I’ve seen in God’s Word on this subject?
When I’ve shared these things with other people, I’ve had a few people say to me:
“Would you write those things down for me?”
With that said, I thought I would also share those things here on my blog.
I will share that I have no desire to add another opinion. These are things I see clearly in God’s Word, and I desire to obey it as well as I can.
Remember, obedience to God’s Word will always look like something.
Modest Clothing
“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel...”
1 Timothy 2:9
God’s Word says that women are to wear
modest apparel - modest clothing. Most people seem to know that modest clothing is something that
covers the body and is
not tight or revealing.
Our clothing should cover us, be comfortable, and fit us well. Our clothing should not be too large or too small, and it should be well ordered. In other words, we should be covered, neat, and clean. The opposite of that is not a good testimony for God.
The Bible talks about modest clothing.
Obedience to that has to look like something.
Male and Female Clothing
“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.”
Deuteronomy 22:5
God does not change, and according to this verse, God desires gender distinction even in clothing.
Would a dress be modest on a man? Sure! You could make a dress for a man that covers him well. Why don’t we make skirts or dresses for men in the United States?
Because dresses are distinctly female clothing.
Would pants/ trousers be modest on a woman? Sure! You can purchase pants that cover the body and are not tight. They are available in the United States for both men and women. Why don’t I wear a pair of modest pants for women?
Because pants are distinctly male clothing.
The Bible talks about male and female clothing.
Obedience to that has to look like something.
This is why I wear a skirt or a dress all the time.
Godly Clothing
“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.”
Romans 12:1
This verse mentions dedicating our bodies to the Lord because of His great mercy towards us.
I believe that includes our clothing because clothing is what covers our bodies. Our clothing should reflect the Lord in a Godly way.
The next verse talks about not being conformed to this world, but renewing our mind in God’s Word.
That verse is where some Christians begin defining what is worldly and what is not worldly. Sadly, that is how many man made rules happen.
In recent years, I asked the Lord what worldliness was to Him. Right away, the Lord directed me to His Word, to the book of 1 John. Then I prayed and asked the Lord for a simple definition of what worldliness was. He answered me.
Worldliness is ungodliness.
That made everything so clear to me.
We should dress in a Godly manner, not an ungodly manner.
The Bible talks about dedicating our bodies to Him.
Obedience to that has to look like something.
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I have found these things to be very clear and helpful because these things are not based on man’s opinion. These are things in God’s Word.
I might not have everything right, but I’m desiring to obey God’s Word as best as I can, and that is why I dress the way that I do. I realize that people can be at a different place with these things, and that is okay. I love people for who they are, not for what they wear.
I believe our heart is what is most important to God. But, God also cares about how we dress, otherwise, He wouldn’t have said something about that in His Word.
I believe modesty is both the heart attitude and the clothing that we wear.
God made me a woman, and I love being a woman. I love beauty. I love elegance. I love simplicity.
I love God, and I want to be beautiful in a way that honors God, both in my heart (my spirit) and in my clothing. (my body)
The Bible says my body belongs to God, and with it, I desire to glorify God.
“For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
1 Corinthians 6:20